Reframing Impostor Syndrome as Self-Deficiency Syndrome

Reframing Impostor Syndrome as Self-Deficiency Syndrome

Impostor Syndrome needs a major reframe. It’s actually the tip of the Self-Deficiency iceberg hiding deeper issues of shame & unenoughness below. Self Leadership Coaching offers a compassionate trauma-informed approach.

If you’re feeling that impostor feeling – it means you’re not in Self. You’re back to being a vulnerable kid again. When you recognize that a wounded part of you is scared and struggling, and your go-to strategies are to push yourself harder or run for the hills, it’s time to stop and reconnect – it’s time to give yourself the kind of love, compassion and acceptance you may never have gotten growing up.

The Avoidance Trap & How to Free Yourself

The Avoidance Trap & How to Free Yourself

Many of us avoid experiences out there, in the world, to avoid experiences in here, in our inner worlds. Our very own internal feelings have become the ‘danger’ our bodies and minds desperately want to get rid of. Difficult and unwanted feelings of pain, fear, shame, guilt, anxiety, anger, sadness, and grief, for example. Anything that you’ve experienced before that your system deemed was too much to bear, and you never want to experience again. Except that we do. Often.

Avoidance works, for brief periods. Avoidance, long term, shrinks your world & expands your problems & pain. Learning to accept difficult feelings as a part of life is key to creating a rich life.