The Avoidance Trap & How to Free Yourself
Many of us avoid experiences out there, in the world, to avoid experiences in here, in our inner worlds. Our very own internal feelings have become the ‘danger’ our bodies and minds desperately want to get rid of. Difficult and unwanted feelings of pain, fear, shame, guilt, anxiety, anger, sadness, and grief, for example. Anything that you’ve experienced before that your system deemed was too much to bear, and you never want to experience again. Except that we do. Often.
Avoidance works, for brief periods. Avoidance, long term, shrinks your world & expands your problems & pain. Learning to accept difficult feelings as a part of life is key to creating a rich life.
What is Self Leadership? A Guide to Leading from Your Authentic Self
Self Leadership is when the various parts of us that make up our inner world or psyche, give up the steering wheel of consciousness & control, in the proverbial bus of life, to the Authentic Self, to let it lead us within and through life wisely, courageously, and lovingly.
It is a transformational and healing way of relating to our inner team or cast of parts (selves); a relational process we can all learn to help us become who we truly are, so we can live authentic, rich, healthy & meaningful lives.
True Self Leadership goes way beyond simple self-management (or what we call inner leadership). It’s about reconnecting to who you really are and transforming problematic protective parts like the inner critic, the perfectionist, the people-pleaser, the avoider, and more
The Personal Growth Journey is one of Self Discovery & also Self Recovery
Finding Our Way Back to Our Selves
As Viktor Frankl said, “live as if you were living already for the second time and as if you had acted the first time as wrongly as you are about to act now!”
One’s journey of self-discovery and personal growth is their opportunity to start changing all that, bit by bit, step by step, and to learn to live again. A new way. A more aware, conscious, mindful, heartful, soulful, and purposeful way of being. The journey is a process of self-discovery, and actually, self recovery, and it’s vital for our wellbeing and fulfillment.
