I used to take a hit and not only go down — I’d stay down. A hit that most people wouldn’t even register.
This piece is what I’ve learned since then about resilience, the nervous system, the science of inner safety, and why the heart is at the center of coming back to yourself.
The Choice Point is simple: every action moves you Towards your values or Away from discomfort.
Either we’re moving towards the kind of person we want to be and the kind of life we want to create — or we’re moving away from pain, struggle or discomfort — which also moves us away from the kind of person we want to be and the kind of impact we want to have in the world.
Here’s how to start choosing your values more deliberately.
Inner Leadership and Self Leadership are closely related — but they’re not the same thing, and the distinction matters.
Inner Leadership is the practice of tending to and managing our inner world: our thoughts, emotions, physical states, energy, attention, and the patterns that shape how we show up.
Self Leadership goes deeper and further. It asks not just how we manage the inner world, but who is leading it, and who tends to it best.
Lost to Our Selves
Over the course of our lives — sometimes from a very early age — most of us lose some or most of our connection to our Authentic Self. To our true nature. To who we really are at the core.
Personal growth isn’t just about discovering who you are. It’s about recovering who you’ve always been beneath the armor, and adaptive protective patterns.