For a long time, the people around me thought I was doing fine. From most angles, my life looked stable — even successful.
Inside, I had a word for what was actually happening. A word I made up, because no existing word quite covered it.
Depranxed.
Positive Intelligence, aka PQ, focuses on identifying and overcoming internal ‘saboteurs’ – so-called negative thought patterns that can interfere with success and wellbeing.
While this model resonates with many, it also presents critical limitations, particularly for individuals with histories of trauma, chronic stress, or unresolved inner conflict, and why real growth requires more than positivity.
Executive & Career Coach Lynn Nicolai and I had an insightful chat about coaching and what to think about when hiring a coach.
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There were about 5 seconds of complete silence.
Then it walloped him!
A moment of recognition — a powerful insight about his values changed everything for him.
I don’t use the word love much with my executive clients. Not because it isn’t present in the room — it is, in almost every session.
But most of the people I work with would visibly flinch at it. This piece is for them.
And for anyone who has ever sensed that something essential is missing from corporate culture, and how they lead — but couldn’t quite name what it was.
For years I assumed the problem was fundamentally me.
The anxiety, the pain, the depression returning despite doing everything right.
It took a long time to find the right word for it. This piece is for anyone still looking. Trauma — here’s what it actually is — and why understanding it changes everything.