For a long time, the people around me thought I was doing fine. From most angles, my life looked stable — even successful.
Inside, I had a word for what was actually happening. A word I made up, because no existing word quite covered it.
Depranxed.
Carl Jung called it the Shadow: the parts of ourselves we’d rather not see. Our hidden fears, flaws, impulses, needs, and shames. The weakness we can’t tolerate in others.
In Self Leadership and parts work, we know the Shadow by another name: the Exiles.
Here’s what happens when you finally turn toward the parts of yourself you’ve been hiding from.
In this video, I put an important spin on Self-Love & explain how Coaching for Self Leadership helps us heal & grow by loving our problematic protective parts & wounded parts
A couple of months back, I was offered an opportunity to be a guest on a podcast called The Daily Path.
It was my first ‘real’ podcast and we got the chance to speak about: what brought me to coaching as a profession — the work of Values Coaching — and what one of my biggest obstacles has been in business.
Self Leadership is the lifelong practice of returning leadership to your Authentic Self — building the awareness, trust, and safety needed to move beyond protection-organized patterns, reclaim your natural capacities, and live in alignment with your deepest values even under pressure.
It is not self-management. It is not productivity optimization, emotional control, or disciplining yourself into better habits. Self Leadership asks a different question entirely:
Who is actually leading within you?