I don’t use the word love much with my executive clients. Not because it isn’t present in the room — it is, in almost every session.
But most of the people I work with would visibly flinch at it. This piece is for them.
And for anyone who has ever sensed that something essential is missing from corporate culture, and how they lead — but couldn’t quite name what it was.
Avoidance, over time, shrinks your world & multiplies problems & pain.
Our very own internal feelings have become the ‘danger’ our bodies and minds desperately want to get rid of.
Learning to accept difficult feelings as a part of life is key to creating a rich life. And that does not mean to just suck it up.
I used to take a hit and not only go down — I’d stay down. A hit that most people wouldn’t even register.
This piece is what I’ve learned since then about resilience, the nervous system, the science of inner safety, and why the heart is at the center of coming back to yourself.
The Choice Point is simple: every action moves you Towards your values or Away from discomfort.
Either we’re moving towards the kind of person we want to be and the kind of life we want to create — or we’re moving away from pain, struggle or discomfort — which also moves us away from the kind of person we want to be and the kind of impact we want to have in the world.
Here’s how to start choosing your values more deliberately.
Inner Leadership and Self Leadership are closely related — but they’re not the same thing, and the distinction matters.
Inner Leadership is the practice of tending to and managing our inner world: our thoughts, emotions, physical states, energy, attention, and the patterns that shape how we show up.
Self Leadership goes deeper and further. It asks not just how we manage the inner world, but who is leading it, and who tends to it best.