When stress hits, old defenses take over – overexplaining, people-pleasing, perfectionism, interrupting, even going silent and shutting down. The APPs MAP helps leaders understand these patterns and begin the inner work to reclaim calm, confidence, and choice so they can show up authentically and powerfully.
Most people approach values work intellectually. They:
❌ Pick words from a list
❌ Take an assessment
❌ Get a printout of their “top values”
And then… they’re stuck. Because words on a page don’t change your life.
Knowing your values intellectually won’t transform you.
Living them will.
Because values work isn’t about finding words that sound nice. It’s about finding what’s real.
And once you do, you’ll have something you can trust – something that, no matter how lost you feel, always leads you back to yourself.
A New Way to Relate to Yourself
This book is about solving the disconnect from your Authentic Self – not by fighting yourself, but by learning to listen, communicate, and lead yourself with heart, with compassion.
✔️ It explains the fundamentals of Self Leadership – the lifelong practice of living and leading from your Authentic Self.
✔️ It teaches Parts Work – how to recognize, understand, and harmonize the different parts of your psyche.
✔️ It includes exercises, dialogue examples, and guided practices to help you start these life-changing inner conversations.
✔️ It helps create safety within your mind, body, and nervous system so you can move beyond fear-driven reactions.
✔️ It shows you how to transform shame, pain, and fear into deeper self-acceptance.
Is Stress Changing Who You Are? It’s highly likely that the toll of chronic stress is silently reshaping you, and without understanding how to manage it, the risks to your wellbeing, family life, and leadership effectiveness are only growing.
I would like to share a model to help explain what might be happening, from a neurophysiological perspective, called the Window of Tolerance.
Explore the path to authentic living, wellbeing, and fulfillment by prioritizing and valuing your own needs and values. Uncover the interconnectedness of needs and values and discover the transformative power of embracing authenticity. Join us on a journey of self-discovery and learn how aligning your actions with your core values can lead to a life of greater inner peace, integrity, confidence, and profound fulfillment.
On the journey of life, there’s a delicate and complex balance between honoring our own wellbeing needs and values, and fostering healthy connections with others. This complex balance is held in check by one fundamental element: boundaries. It is my sincere hope that within these words, you will find solace and inspiration, a gentle nudge towards reclaiming your Authentic Self and embracing the power of boundaries.
