When burnout hits or toxic work takes its toll, you don’t fall apart randomly.
The parts of you that formed years ago to protect you from pain, shame, and helplessness — they step up. They take over. They do what they were built to do.
In the HeartRich framework, I call them your Inner Crews.
For a long time, the people around me thought I was doing fine. From most angles, my life looked stable — even successful.
Inside, I had a word for what was actually happening. A word I made up, because no existing word quite covered it.
Depranxed.
Values aren’t discovered by circling words on a list.
They’re found in the moments when something costs you — when you had to choose, when you held a line, when you didn’t and felt the quiet erosion afterward.
This post is a spotlight on the book that helps you find what’s actually real, and build a life you can trust around it.
Real resilience isn’t a trait you either have or don’t. It’s the outcome of learning to turn the dials of influence — nine interconnected capacities — from struggle toward strength, from survival toward flourishing.
Leveraging the powers of the mind, body, emotions and especially the heart to lead you back to Self.
I had not one inkling that the final year of my 40s would turn out the way it did. This past year has reshaped both my inner and outer life in ways I could never have anticipated. I hate to admit it, but I was incredibly naïve, and ignorant. The writing was quite literally, on the wall….
As I turned 50 just days ago, I find myself contemplating how this year of horror, trauma, violence, and hatred has fundamentally shifted my identities – as a Jew, an Israeli, a Canadian, a family man, friend and neighbor, and as a professional who tries to bring more heart to the world.