When burnout hits or toxic work takes its toll, you don’t fall apart randomly.
The parts of you that formed years ago to protect you from pain, shame, and helplessness — they step up. They take over. They do what they were built to do.
In the HeartRich framework, I call them your Inner Crews.
For a long time, the people around me thought I was doing fine. From most angles, my life looked stable — even successful.
Inside, I had a word for what was actually happening. A word I made up, because no existing word quite covered it.
Depranxed.
Why can’t I speak up when I need to? Why do I keep people-pleasing even when it costs me? Why do I just want Thai food but end up wherever everyone else wants to go?
Underneath all of it is a quieter, more painful question: What is wrong with me?
Nothing is wrong with you. But something very specific is happening.
There’s a conversation happening inside you whether you’re aware of it or not. Parts of you protecting, striving, avoiding, criticizing — often at cross-purposes, often exhausting. This book teaches you how to listen to all of it, and how to lead from who you really are.
This post is a spotlight about the compassionate, practical guide to Self Leadership and the inner life.
In this video, we talked about Burnout & how limiting beliefs & patterns like Perfectionism & People-Pleasing block us from owning & asserting needed boundaries