For a long time, the people around me thought I was doing fine. From most angles, my life looked stable — even successful.
Inside, I had a word for what was actually happening. A word I made up, because no existing word quite covered it.
Depranxed.
When stress hits, old defenses take over – overexplaining, people-pleasing, perfectionism, interrupting, even going silent and shutting down. The APPs MAP helps leaders understand these patterns and begin the inner work to reclaim calm, confidence, and choice so they can show up authentically and powerfully.
Values aren’t discovered by circling words on a list.
They’re found in the moments when something costs you — when you had to choose, when you held a line, when you didn’t and felt the quiet erosion afterward.
This post is a spotlight on the book that helps you find what’s actually real, and build a life you can trust around it.
I had not one inkling that the final year of my 40s would turn out the way it did. This past year has reshaped both my inner and outer life in ways I could never have anticipated. I hate to admit it, but I was incredibly naïve, and ignorant. The writing was quite literally, on the wall….
As I turned 50 just days ago, I find myself contemplating how this year of horror, trauma, violence, and hatred has fundamentally shifted my identities – as a Jew, an Israeli, a Canadian, a family man, friend and neighbor, and as a professional who tries to bring more heart to the world.
Most of us know what it feels like to lose touch with ourselves.
Not dramatically, not all at once — but gradually, across years of adapting, performing, and protecting.
This piece is about that disconnection — and about two things most people dramatically undervalue: their needs and their values.